Hong Kong: Beliefs and Etiquette

Hong Kong: Beliefs and Etiquette

„A Chinese dinner host will not expect a visitor to know all the traditions associated with a Chinese meal. But the visitor who knows some of them will gain ‘face’ and give ‘face’ to his host!“

Investigating those traditions is part of the fun of a Hong Kong visit, where English-speaking friends or business associates will happily tell you the whys and wherefores of seemingly arcane rituals. You may even hear different versions of how a particular ddining tradition originated!

Foreign visitors will be forgiven for not knowing dining etiquette, just as they will be good-naturedly offered a knife and fork if their chopstick prowess is not up to par. Just as Chinese food, however, seems to taste better when it is eaten with chopsticks, so the whole meal will be more enjoyable if one knows a little of the ancient traditions and beliefs that place the meal in a 5,000-year-old culinary heritage.

Although Western customs have iinfluenced dining habits in Hong Kong, the majority of old traditions still live on. The guest of honor will usually be seated facing the door of entry, directly opposite the host. The next most honored guest will be seated to tthe left of the guest of honor. If the host has any doubts about the correct order of precedence for his guests, he will seat them on the basis of age.

The host sits near the door, as in Western practice, so that he is nearest to the kitchen. If the meal is held in the host’s home, he can then bring each dish to the table more quickly. He will himself serve his guests portions of food, on the tacit understanding that they are far too polite to help themselves.

But for some dishes, especially fish, the host would never do so – for the good reason that the dish would be inedibly cool by the end of the sservice. Instead, each guest is expected to help himself.

If a Chinese dinner has been arranged in a restaurant, the host will usually sit nearest the kitchen or service door. Then he will be in the least-favored position – sitting where the waiter will stand while serving individual portions of food (the waiter’s „mark“ being his serving utensils laid on the table). Some hosts, however, seat their most junior guests or family members at this slightly awkward spot so that the hhost can talk more easily to guests on either side of him. It is also becoming more common for hosts to sit next to foreign guests of honor.

Should you find yourself in one of the „junior“ seats on either side of the server’s position, take comfort from the fact that your fellow diners are either even more „important“ or older than you and you are honored to be sitting with them, or your host has flattered you by deciding you are one of the least status-conscious guests!

Whatever your table position is, you may be expected to make at least one toast during the meal – to the course which is about to commence, if necessary, when everyone else has used up all socially-acceptable topics of mutual esteem! Every person stands up for a moment, raises his or her glass, and finds out who has the strongest constitution!

Taking one’s turn is also expected for tea-pouring at smaller gatherings where each guest leans over or rises to fill fellow-diners’ tea cups. The almost surreptitious finger-tapping on the table that greets the pouring service is said to date back to a ploy invented by a Qing Dynasty emperor. While making aan incognito tour of South China, the emperor visited a teahouse. In order to maintain his cover as an ordinary member of a party of travelers, the emperor took his turn at pouring tea for his companions. They started to acknowledge this astonishing honor by bowing in the usual fashion but the emperor told them they could simply tap the table with three fingers – two of which would represent their prostrate limbs, while the third finger would symbolize their bowed heads. The custom survives in Hong Kong and South China as a silent token of thanks for the gesture.

Other, older habits have been known to make some visitors a little uncomfortable when not used to fellow diners slurping their soup, laying discarded bones on the tablecloth, and audibly making a meal of a meal.

The second habit is dying out now that most restaurants provide side-plates for bones but it is still possible to see waiters clearing a table by ...